Many people consider giving
up at some point in their lives. They think they can’t go on – wherever they
are going – and so they’re on the verge of throwing in the towel. They’ve given
it their best – they think; they’ve done all they can – they think; there’s
nothing left to try – they think; it’s just never going to happen – they think;
and so they might as well give up – they think.
You've tried so hard. You're at the end of your wits. Nothing
you have done has taken you to the result you were reaching for. You have
worked very hard. You have implemented change and innovation. You have stuck to
your guns and forsaken even much of your free time in order to continue pushing
at your goal. You've persevered. You've been determined. You've motivated
yourself day after day, and you've done just about everything you can think of
doing in order to achieve the result you desire. You've emulated your role
models. You've studied and learned and perfected. And yet ... it keeps eluding
you. You are on the verge of throwing in the towel.
Absolutely not an option. So motivate yourself some more. You
do understand that motivation is most often a self-propelled activity, thought
process, and impulse. Consider these quotes:
- There is no failure except in no longer trying. Elbert Hubbard
- It's always too soon to quit! Norman Vincent Peale
- The difference between success and failure is not giving up. Steven Redhead
- He has no talent at all, that boy! You, who are his friend, tell him, please, to give up painting. Manet said this to Monet about Renoir
- Success is not final; failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill
- Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. Napoleon Hill
And
please: before throwing in that towel, think of Rafael Nadal who shot up to #1
in tennis in his early 20’s, stayed there a while, then had setbacks and some physical
challenges, and then shot back up to #1 again, had more physical – and even
emotional - challenges, fell to #4, and is now – in his late 20’s - doing his
utmost, not only to not throw in the towel, but to believe in
himself and thus move forward. Do you think it is easier for him because he has
already attained such fame, so many accolades, such prestige, so much money?
Think again. He has to fall down and get up again in the eyes of the entire
world. All you have to do is fall - relatively -
privately and get up - relatively - privately.
So
what was that you were saying about throwing in the towel?
Another thing to remember
is that it’s impossible for enthusiasm and demotivation to be part of your
inner make-up simultaneously.
Logical,
isn’t it? And you certainly didn’t need me to tell you that, right? You already
knew that. In that case, put
your knowledge into action. In other words, recognize the importance of
your inner vibration or frequency, and recognize that it determines whether hopelessness,
blackness, negativity, low moods, and depression enter your inner space.
Let’s
take a closer look at your vibration or frequency. Isn’t it the energy you have
inside of you? Not the energy you need to run a marathon or chop wood, but the
energy that determines how good you are feeling. The better you are feeling,
the less of a chance there is that you will go down the scale into a grey mood.
Yes, you say, I know that. What I don’t know is
how to keep the energy high. (See also Keep Energy High! Watch How You Feed Your
Brain, Heart, and Spirit)
You keep your energy high by being vigilant.
You
know that when you feel you are getting a temperature, you check with a
thermometer, and then, if you measure over the norm, you take aspirin, or go to
bed, or make an appointment with your doctor, or do something in an attempt to regulate the
temperature of your body.
This
is exactly the same! You observe yourself at all times, from the point of view
of how you are feeling. As soon as you notice you are drifting downwards
energetically (your temperature is changing), you make changes in order to keep your energy as
high as possible. See also Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it
a Question of Luck?
The
changes that you make, will depend on different factors, such as how much
experience you have in doing this, where you actually are (physically) when you
recognize that you need to regulate your energy (i.e., if you are at work, you
probably can’t go out for a run), and what you have at hand.
Here
are some small, but very effective methods you can use, think of them as baby
steps in your learning process to keep your energy on healthy, high levels, and
thereby help yourself – as if you were your own coach – to maintain motivation
high, and to remind yourself, when you are on the verge of giving up, that you
are nowhere near the end, and that you have far more left to do:
- Realize that right here, where you are right now, recognizing that you are on the way down, energetically speaking, and thinking about what is written here, you have a choice. You can choose to continue to go down into what Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body, or you can do something to change that downward spiral. (But for this to work on a consistent basis, you must make the decision to raise your awareness of yourself as much as possible, so that you can “catch” the downward spiraling long before it goes too low).
- Take a 15-minute mindfulness walk (read this). This will train your brain to remain in the present, giving it far fewer opportunities to rummage around in the pain or nostalgia of the past, or in the stress and worry of tomorrow.
- Make a Happy CD of music containing only songs that fill you with joy (no nostalgia, please).
- Better yet, burn some talks or seminars by people you admire or about subjects that fascinate you on CD’s for listening in your car, or on your iPod, in order that these talks help shift your energy, while you are still too weak to do it properly yourself; while you are, so to speak, growing those muscles!
·
And
remember, as I have encouraged you to do in many of these articles: Begin to
make a habit of viewing much in your daily life with gratitude (also see Ten
Reasons Why Gratitude Should Form Part of Your Daily Routine ). Gratitude is simply one of the very best habits you can develop. It
will enhance you most marvelous moments, and it will help you bear your deepest
despair. Just begin. Now.
There is much, much more to be said about
this subject. But this is a start. You can use this simple information
presented here to make a difference in your life immediately. It’s your choice.
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