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Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Are You Addicted to Feeling Good Through Others?

Isn't it wonderful when people make you feel good? When they do lovely things for you and show you how much they care for you? And isn't it true that your life is so much better when people treat you like that?

But what occurs when that doesn't happen? Imagine a relationship ends and you no longer get that kind of treatment. Isn't it probable that you will find yourself going through heavy withdrawal symptoms? Even when you don't miss the person with whom you no longer have the relationship? In other words, you miss the good feeling, but may not miss the person very much.

In such a case, you might be addicted to the good feeling you get thanks to others, and therefore need to supply that good feeling for yourself again by finding another person who gives it to you. At this point you might be asking yourself what I'm going on about ... isn't it true that we all search for the good feeling from our partners or from other people in our lives?

Truth be told, no. Not all of us. If we've learned to supply the good feeling for ourselves, then we can potentially have relationships with others (not only partners, but also friends, or family members), where we simply don't need them to supply it for us. In other words, the relationship does not depend on us being provided with this good feeling by the other. On the one hand it does not depend on that because we supply it for ourselves, and on the other hand, because we are not, therefore, addicted to receiving it from others.

This is fundamentally crucial for an aware, conscious, and healthy relationship of any kind. I've written a great deal about this, specifically in my book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership as well as in Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin, and in my blogs and monthly newsletter (subscribe here - no cost - English, Spanish, German). I encourage you to look at the subject more closely if you believe that you are addicted to feeling good through others. It was Jung who wrote: every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism", and in the case I've described here, being addicted to feeling good thanks to others who supply that feeling for you, will also have negative repercussions in your life.


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