"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

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Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Giving Freedom

How much freedom are you comfortable with? I'm referring to the freedom you 'give' to your partner. Is your trust boundless? Do you need to spend every waking moment with your partner (excluding work time) to feel good, or are you cool with spending time apart dedicated to activities each of you enjoy -perhaps even with other people? Do you feel anxious if your partner has contact (email, telephone, in person) with an ex-partner, or do you consider it a good sign that your partner maintains such a relationship with someone who was once important in his/her life? Do you want to participate in all activities your partner likes, even if some of them bore you? Do you eventually cause your partner to abandon those activities? Do you abandon some friends and activities once you have a new partner? Do you feel that peace is missing somewhere inside of you unless you are with your partner or know where your partner is at all times?

These are important questions to consider, not only about yourself, but also about your partner. It may be that you are comfortable in giving freedom, but your partner is not, and therefore it's not enough to look at yourself and determine whether you are able to give freedom, but also to look at yourself and determine why you are with someone who does not give it back.

Fresh air - or freedom - in relationships is paramount. It's healthy to have some friends, hobbies, and interests that are not mutual. It's healthy because these outside interests can fuel momentum, interest, passion, and above all, real connection in the relationship. As Tagore wrote: love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.


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