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Monday, September 7, 2015

Creating a Practice

This is not a post about me encouraging you to start meditating or doing yoga, or attending meetings of some spiritual nature, or anything along those lines. This is a post to encourage you to start a practice of eradicating from your life that which no longer serves you; that which is holding you down; holding you back; and that which keeps you from being all you could be. As William James put it: begin to be now what you will be hereafter.

How do you eradicate? You create a practice of being aware of that one thing you are working on. Assuming you wish to be less judgmental, you will need to invoke awareness as often as you can when you drift into the judgmental mindset. You'll have to set up the intention inside of you to be aware at those times, in order to stop yourself in mid-game. The more often you stop yourself, the more quickly this practice that you have created will stop the habit you wish to eradicate from having strength in your life.

And habits to eradicate could be any of the following:
  • criticizing others
  • judging others
  • not being kind as often as you could be
  • being less impatient
  • being less quick to anger
  • spending less time in the past, dwelling on past pain
  • being quick to jump to conclusions
  • being unwilling to forgive
  • being unwilling to think better thoughts of someone who has harmed you (remember, as long as you continue to think thoughts of anger, pain, desire for revenge, etc., whatever it was that happened will continue to fester and will continue to erode the relationship you have with that person - or the way you feel inside of yourself, even if you no longer have any contact with that person)
Now let's extrapolate and apply just one of these specifically to your relationship with your partner:
  • instead of continually looking for all his/her faults, and then criticizing them (assuming you are no longer at the honeymoon stage of the relationship), look instead for all those wonderful things, that are still generally there, but that you just don't see, because you are so focused on the negative
Can you see how such a practice could radically change the tenor of your relationship? Are you willing to try? It's a choice, and it's solely up to you.


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