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Thursday, April 9, 2015

Letting the Real Thing Pass You By

How much does your need and desire for security hold you from allowing yourself to have the 'real' thing? Or how much of the 'real' thing have you given up in the past in order to ensure that you have guarantees and security in that arena of your life? Conversely, are you effectively letting the 'real' thing pass you by - even as you observe it do so - because you know it is not a sure thing.

I meant to make this only about love, but it also happens in our professions: in what we choose to do with our lives, and in so many other, perhaps more secondary arenas, such as the friends we choose (or the people we choose to spend time with, which may or may not be the same thing), and the daily activities in which we participate.

Let's look at love first: did you fear the vulnerability you felt in an early relationship (one of those that knocks the socks off of you) and decide that feeling secure was better? This is not a question of right or wrong, but one of discerning where growth takes place, and one of recognizing that frequently when we choose security we give up on discovery. And maybe we also give up on 'real' love, although that is merely an opinion.

We can apply the same thing to what we choose to do with our lives. Is there a real purpose in yours? Or did you set it (the real purpose that you felt as an inner excitement whenever you considered it) aside because no one would have understood the direction in which you were taking your life and that would have meant rejection or disapproval, or perhaps even ridicule or pity? These are not easy questions, but I was reminded of this once again as I recently re-read some passages from the excellent book that Diane Esbon edited of Joseph Campbell's works titled Reflections of the Art of Living. In it, he writes: the hero's journey always begins with the call. One way or another, a guide must come to say, "Look, you're in Sleepy Land. Wake. Come on a trip. There's a whole aspect of your consciousness, your being, that's not been touched. So you're at home here? Well, there's not enough of you there." And so it starts. And a bit further down, Campbell continues: The call is to leave a certain social situation, move into your own loneliness and find the jewel, the center that's impossible to find when you're socially engaged. You are thrown off-center, and when you feel off-center, it's time to go. This is the departure when the hero feels something has been lost and goes to find it. You are to cross the threshold into new life. It's a dangerous adventure, because you are moving out of the sphere of knowledge of you and your community.

And as stated earlier, this can apply not only to your 'calling' but to all spheres of your life. So: are you going out there for the real thing, the one that speaks to your soul, and the one that will move you forward to another level, or are you giving up on it - letting it pass you by - for the sake of guarantees, safety, and security?


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