It's simply
impossible to feel good all the time. Too many things happen. People are
unfriendly or even angry. Long lines at the bank or supermarket. Congestion on
the expressway. Unexpected or unplanned snafus at work. Delays in shipping,
meaning that a vital piece you need in order to continue has still not arrived.
The recession. Wars. Suicide bombers. Greedy banks. Climate change.
Politicians. Major embezzlers that get away with a rap on the knuckles. Your
favorite sports team loses. You have a bad hair day. Your life partner is
looking anxious and requesting 'space'. Your son was not accepted at his first
choice of college. Your daughter is dating a loser. You lost a major client.
You can't sleep. You have an ominous looking mole on your cheek. There's a leak
on the roof. Truly, looking at it like that, it really is simply impossible to
feel reasonably good all the time.
False. You
read that right. It's false.
In a world
where we're socialized and programmed into believing everything is always the
fault of another or of something out there that is happening, we are taught
from a very early age that the health of
our inner state depends on the outer circumstances being tolerably good, and
furthermore, that it depends on how much we are able to control those outer
circumstances. And that is simply wrong.
One of the
most important things we are not
taught (along with a toxic lack of creativity in so many of our schools in so
many countries), is to love the self. We are not taught this essential element
to basic well-being by our parents (mainly because they themselves don't/didn't
know how to love the self), by our churches (who tend to preach that loving the
self is selfish), by our schools (how could they, if those who teach there also
do not know how to love the self), and certainly not by our culture, our
society, that is so determined to make us love outer satisfaction and outer
filling of our needs, most specifically by consumption.
You see,
when you truly know how to love the self in healthy ways, you will always -
without fail - be aware of inner and outer circumstances and events, thoughts
and feelings that are not energetically aligned with an inner state of
well-being. Please note: it's not so much happiness
I am referring to, as inner balance, harmony, equanimity. This implies having
access - or being able to return to - an inner state that allows you to feel
well despite turmoil, problems, stress, and chaos. To do this is simply not
possible if you do not care for and love the self. I go to great lengths to
explain this in my book The Power of
Your Heart: Loving the Self because of the fact that most people simply
don't know how.
Imagine you
had not been taught to read and write when you were a child. Clearly, if you
are now an adult, you would need to practice a great deal in order to master
such skills. Having access - or being able to return to - that inner state
referred to above that allows you to feel well despite turmoil, problems,
stress, and chaos is also a question of practice. One of the simplest ways of
doing this is by becoming aware of yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings.
Becoming aware can be accomplished by numerous methods, but one in particular
that is quite simple - assuming it is practiced diligently - is mindfulness. The
same practice also - once it is being done on a regular basis - what lies at
the bottom of the potential for that continual state of inner well-being. I
have written about this before.
To refresh your memory, have a look at these:
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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.
Find more free articles from my monthly newsletters as well as more information about my work at Advanced Personal Therapy
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