Discovering Your Fate

Have you ever noticed your relationship patterns? Noticed how you tend to repeat something you already experienced? Or have you had similar supervisors or bosses in different jobs - in other words, a similar kind of situation arose because of some type of issue with each boss? Or perhaps you tend to be very impatient and because of your impatience you tend not to double check certain things you do and hence have landed in a similar kind of mess on various occasions.

Some might call these examples fate. Or bad luck. But our friend C.G. Jung would have said: Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. So that tells you (if you care to really understand it), that as long as you don't connect with the part of yourself that is in the shadow, i.e., the part that isn't easily visible for you to see, and only becomes visible by virtue of the things that happen to you (such as some of the examples noted above), then those very same things will continue to occur again and again, and you may well call it fate or bad luck. 

Again, Jung has something interesting to add: My own understanding is the sole treasure I possess, and the greatest. Though infinitely small and fragile in comparison with the powers of darkness, it is still a light, my only light. So what does it mean that we need to connect with the part of the self that only shows up via that which happens to you? It means that one of the things you can do, is to examine your life on the basis of those events that have occurred - in some fashion - more than once. This gives you a starting point. Jung says: Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.

Becoming conscious - awakening - is ultimately one of the most enriching and most freeing things you can do for yourself and by so doing you may find that your fate is no longer your fate because you will have a much greater hand in shaping it.

Image: The Three Fates from Greek Mythology

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