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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

In the Heat of the Argument

Arguments come about - evidently - because you disagree with another person or several persons or many others. You want to demonstrate that you are right. Needing to be right is the ego trying to make you lose sight of peace, love and truth. Giving Up the Need to Be Right is an entire article about this subject. 

But in today's post, I simply want to prevail on you to keep your eyes on truth. In a marriage or love relationship - or any kind of relationship at all - if you are not aware of yourself as the heat of an argument escalates, or simply as opposing points of view threaten to destroy your inner equanimity, it will be impossible to keep your eyes on anything other than your need to be right. Needing to be right is all you focus on - if you are not remaining aware and conscious. This means - simply put - that your chances for resolving in a spirit of peace, love, and truth are low, as opposed to the very high chances you have to achieve that if you remain aware.

Publius Syrius very rightly said: In a heated argument we are apt to lose sight of the truth, but if he had added that by remaining aware this has excellent chances of not occurring, he would have been even more correct.

I choose to assume that you are very interested in maintaining a high level of peace, love and truth in your relationships. In that case, how much practice are you putting into remaining aware - and mindful - at all times?

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