"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Is Happiness a Science or a Question of Luck?

Are we born more prone to be happy or sad? Is it a question of genes? Does our environment make a difference? Our socio-economic status, the level of our intelligence, our emotional satisfaction, or the state of our physical health? Or could it be that we can decide how happy or unhappy we are?

Happiness and Our Bodies

According to recent psychological research, people who show the highest results in tests of happiness, optimism and contentment
·         Develop about 50% more anti-bodies than average when subjected to flu vaccines
·         Have a reduced risk of cardio-vascular disease
·         Show a lower index of pulmonary disease
·         Show a lower incidence of diabetes
·         Have less hypertension than individuals who are less content
·         And as indicated in a 2004 study carried out in Holland, further reduced their risk of death by 50% over a period of nine years

Clearly, the neurochemistry of happiness, in other words, how the brain looks and reacts if you are happy, has a great deal to say about your physical health and even the length of your life.

Plasticity of the Brain & Adult Neurogenesis

Neuroscientists have found that the brain is highly plastic, meaning that depending on the type of experiences it undergoes, it is capable of rewiring itself. Depending on an individual’s activities – both physical and intellectual - the brain can grow new connections or dendrites between cells – and has been proven to be capable of adult neurogenesis, or new cell growth after adulthood, contrary to all prior research – and thus to become more active, even in old age. Even negative experiences can be beneficial, according to Richard Davidson from the University of Wisconsin’s Laboratory for Affective Neuroscience. Therefore, not only can the brain reach higher levels of happiness, but – as Davidson published in 2004 - it can deliberately induce a state of happiness.

Are Depression and Happiness Emotional States Beyond Our Control?

Most people believe that depression and happiness are emotional states beyond their control. Breakthrough data – happily - shows otherwise.

The New York Times and Time Magazine have been publishing fascinating research on what is being called the new science of happiness. The American Psychological Association (APA) has been receiving and bestowing grants in order to study the elusive mystery of what does and does not make people satisfied with life.

What Makes Us Happy?

So let’s cut to the chase: what exactly makes us happy according to the latest research?

Wealth? Once our basic needs are met, additional income does little to raise one’s sense of satisfaction with life.

Good Education or High IQ? Much as they are assets to have in a lifetime, neither does much to raise one’s sense of satisfaction with life either.

Youth? Not this one either. In actual fact, research indicates that older people are more typically satisfied with their lives than the young, and the young have been found to be sad more frequently than the older populations.

How About Marriage? Here research indicates that by and large married individuals are generally happier than singles, but this may be caused by the fact that they were happier to begin with.

Sunshine? Further studies show us that this also is not what makes us happy.

How About Religious Faith or Spirituality? In this case research demonstrates that religious faith or spirituality truly does appear to lift our spirits, although it is not conclusive whether this is due to the spiritual part or the community part that spiritual and religious practice imply.

What About Friends? A 2002 study clearly indicates that friends belong to the strongest contributing factors to happiness. Thus it becomes clear that close connections to friends, family and community, as well as a desire to spending quality time with them, highly influences an individual’s state of happiness. More recently, in October 2006, Daniel Goleman’s article in the New York Times addresses the biology of emotional healing. He refers to “emotional contagion, the tendency of one person to catch the feelings of another, particularly if strongly expressed” and the possibility that this further explains why family and friends contribute to our happiness and not only emotional, but also physical well-being.

Most Important Components of Happiness

Martin Seligman, author of Authentic Happiness, has demonstrated through his research that there are three components of happiness:

  • Pleasure: what makes me feel good. (See also Flow by M. Csikszentmihalyi)
  • Engagement: how deeply I am involved with my family, work, romance and hobbies.
  • Meaning: using my personal strengths to serve some greater purpose. (For further information on engagement and meaning, also see my article Finding a Meaning for Your Life)
 How Can We Become Happier?

One of the most compelling issues in happiness research is how much our happiness is under our own control. Do we influence it, is it due to genetics, or is it pure luck? Specifically, what can we do to become happier?

  • Keeping a Gratitude Journal. Amazingly, the most important component to maintaining and/or raising our level of happiness is accomplished by keeping a gratitude journal. By writing down - on a daily basis - five things we are grateful for (the blue sky, the fresh smell of a baby’s skin, a delicious cup of latte, having beautiful eyes, being capable of thinking on one’s feet, etc.), physical health is improved, energy levels are raised, even pain and fatigue can be relieved.
  • Performing acts of altruism and kindness gives a significant boost to test subjects.
  • Figuring out your strengths and finding new ways to use them (see Seligman’s website www.reflectivehappiness.com for testing yourself)
  • Having or developing a capacity for love and kindness is another factor that raises levels of happiness, hence it is in your own interest that you consciously work on these aspects of your personality
  • You can consciously work on changing your DNA (for research on this topic see also my September 2005 Newsletter DNA Can Change According to the Feelings of the Individual)
  • Water crystals and the body’s molecules show similar results as the above indicated DNA research (see work by Masuru Emoto: The Hidden Messages in Water, also mentioned in the film What the Bleep Do We Know?, and work by Candace Pert: The Molecules of Emotion).
  • Emotional-energetic barometer (see also my article The Energy Barometer: Make Your Mind Body Connection Work For You ).
  • Using mind-body observation leads to greater consciousness and awareness of the self which leads to a greater capacity to use the information you are receiving in your own benefit and in raising your levels of happiness. 
Is Happiness Luck or is it up to us?

So, going back to our original question, contained within the title of this article: has happiness become a science, or is it a question of luck, we are now definitively in a position to say, that while it has become more and more the focus of much concentrated academic and scientific research, more than ever, happiness is in the hands of the individual, in your hands, depending on what you do, how you think, how you react, and above all, how conscious and aware you are of yourself in those moments when you feel less than happy and when you could actually begin to change that and make yourself rise to another level of feeling (see also my March 2006 Newsletter: Intentional Focus: Your Happiness, Your Success, and the Law of Attraction).

The knowledge that your happiness is in your hands, that you have choices to make, is the beginning of a new way of looking at your well-being, and how you go about your days and your life. In it, as in all other aspects of becoming conscious and aware, lies freedom.

For more about choosing happiness in relationships and how awareness of this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency


For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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