Judging everything that occurs over the course of a day is tiresome, to say the very least. This is good, that is bad, this is helpful, that is not. This is interesting, that is boring, this makes me happy, that makes me sad.
Likewise criticizing everything that occurs over the course of a day is the stuff of making your life miserable. That person is rude to me, the weather is not warm enough, the way people drive in this horrendous traffic is so aggressive, the maìtre'd at the restaurant we went to last night is so condescending, the doctor believes he knows it all and is very arrogant.
What if you were to look at it from the point of view that you are here to experience? That means that you have many opportunities (in whatever guise they appear in your life) to learn and grow. Some opportunities are delightful and others are not at all delightful, but if you were to make up your mind to view them all as brilliant opportunities that appear in your life not because you have bad or good luck, but because you can use each of them to grow, then of course your inner reaction to them would be very different.
When you learn to play a sport or a musical instrument, or learn to speak a new language, or learn to use new software or a new digital device, you know there is a learning curve. You are prepared for it. You are very aware of the fact that if you want to become proficient, you need to ascend that learning curve. This is no different. Your life also has a learning curve. Or do you want to remain the way you are today forever?
Image: Riquewihr, Alsace, France
Likewise criticizing everything that occurs over the course of a day is the stuff of making your life miserable. That person is rude to me, the weather is not warm enough, the way people drive in this horrendous traffic is so aggressive, the maìtre'd at the restaurant we went to last night is so condescending, the doctor believes he knows it all and is very arrogant.
What if you were to look at it from the point of view that you are here to experience? That means that you have many opportunities (in whatever guise they appear in your life) to learn and grow. Some opportunities are delightful and others are not at all delightful, but if you were to make up your mind to view them all as brilliant opportunities that appear in your life not because you have bad or good luck, but because you can use each of them to grow, then of course your inner reaction to them would be very different.
When you learn to play a sport or a musical instrument, or learn to speak a new language, or learn to use new software or a new digital device, you know there is a learning curve. You are prepared for it. You are very aware of the fact that if you want to become proficient, you need to ascend that learning curve. This is no different. Your life also has a learning curve. Or do you want to remain the way you are today forever?
Image: Riquewihr, Alsace, France
For more about recognizing 'interesting confrontations' in your love life, in order to help you move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)
To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
This ground-breaking book addresses:
• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship
It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships.
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency
REWIRING THE SOUL
For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self
To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.
Reviews From the Back Cover:
A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:
It is your right to live a life of
love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to
live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the
instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your
family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an
act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't
practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not
shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how
to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving
yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently
of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived
with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know
that it all begins with you by loving
the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more
clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others
in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving
yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever
learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of
your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will
ever be able to imagine.
Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my other book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.
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