How can we ever learn to say good-bye? Losing someone we love can leave such a vast looming black hole in our lives and hearts. To all intents and purposes, that's it. We'll never see that person again. But I don't believe that. I've always been convinced that the passage from life to death is merely like passing through one of those filmy curtains that does not allow you to see what's on the other side, but you absolutely know the other side is there. Obviously if your child, partner, parent, sibling or friend passes to the room on the other side of the filmy curtain, there is not a shred of doubt in your mind that they are there.
When a person passes from this life I believe they continue to be there as well. The difference is, we simply are unable to see beyond the film of this curtain that is called death into the room that comes beyond it. In real life, we can walk over ourselves, but in this other state, it's not possible. Whoever is gone, is there in a way our physical eyes simply can't see. But when it's my turn to go, I'll be able to see them all again ... right there in the place beyond the filmy curtain. My belief in this - for which, of course, I have no proof, although thousands and perhaps millions believe the same - is what helps me deal with the immediate loss when someone goes. Perhaps this brief post will help others to give the possibility of the idea of 'crossing through the veil' some credence as well. When you say good-bye to someone at an airport or train station, you know that you will see them again at some point in the future. Crossing through the veil at death is so similar in concept. It is simply our rational culture that doesn't help us believe in these non-rational matters.
Think of the many books that have been written about countless NDE's (near death experiences), or about thousands of death bed visitations (frequently the dying talk about seeing someone who has already died, sitting there on the corner of their bed, smiling and chatting with them), or about the relatively common (nowadays) concept of OBE's (out of body experiences, where occasionally those who have already died interact with the person having the OBE), past life regressions, between life regressions, and so on. When I was growing up books such as these were considered out there and kooky, written by strange people, but now in the age of quantum physics, books such as these are often written by scientists, physicians, and other individuals who are regarded in a more serious light. The fact that scientists or doctors have also been there, doesn't make the experience more true or real, it simply means - due to their professional credibility - that a greater mass of the population is willing to listen.
Take comfort and courage from these ideas. Physical death is not the end. Death can never be the end. Death is simply the beginning of the next adventure.
For much more about connecting with your inner 'self', or your soul, and how awareness of this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)
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This ground-breaking book addresses:
• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship
It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships.
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency
REWIRING THE SOUL
For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).
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From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.
Reviews From the Back Cover:
A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is due out later this year. Here is a brief excerpt from the Introduction:
It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.
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