Including Compassion in Everyday Details

In a recent blog I asked Do You Intend to Love? and shortly before that I suggested Offering Love Even When You Hurt and before that I wrote about Living Love and on my website (on the Articles page) I posted an article from my monthly newsletters called Feeling Compassion Only For the Hungry or Also for the Person Who Hurt You?. Compassion is closely linked to those subjects, and compassion is also closely linked to loving the self. In fact, the more compassion you consciously allow yourself to feel - especially in those instances where others are behaving in ways that you aren't crazy about, the more you will find yourself feeling love for yourself. In some ways, what you live, what you breathe, becomes who you are.

Here are some examples where compassion may be called for, although you might prefer to only feel compassion for the hungry, homeless, and sick:

• the cashier who is taking too long to ring up your groceries (maybe she's been on her feet for 8 hours and is tired; maybe the customer before you spoke to her in a nasty, impatient and arrogant tone of voice)
• the friend that has just let you down - again (maybe you need to be compassionate with yourself and check your boundaries, but maybe your friend who let you down for this social occasion in actual fact needs to stay at home and speak to someone with a loving ear; maybe your friend has been going through a difficult time and you haven't noticed, or had time for him/her)
• the driver in front of you who is driving just a bit too slowly (perhaps the person is elderly - after all, you can't tell that from behind, bearing in mind the headrest is obscuring your view of their head; maybe this person has just finished a convalescence after a long illness, and this is their first day back on the road; maybe this person just got their driver's license and is not yet 100% confident on the road)
• your partner who just phoned to say that he/she won't be able to have dinner with you tonight because there is simply too much work on the desk (you may need to recall that this partner truly wants to be with you, but has a strong sense of responsibility, and will therefore forego being with you in order to fill obligations; this may be providing both of you with a comfortable lifestyle; this may be what needs to be done in order for your partner to get that promotion, that partnership, that position as an associate at the firm)

The everyday details that call for compassion happen all the time - probably not a day goes by without some examples of this nature occurring, and that is precisely where and when you can practice being compassionate.

It was the Dalai Lama who said Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive and it was Gandhi who said It is easy enough to be friendly to one's friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business and it was Mother Teresa who said If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.

We are all one. There is no you and me, them and us. Look to quantum physics. Your energy affects the energy of all and the energy of all affects you. Including compassion in your everyday affairs, as small and seemingly unimportant as they may be, will help bring greater consciousness of our inter-connectedness about. Love yourself enough to do this.

For much more about understanding how love, compassion, and appreciation - even when things are difficult - can make such a difference in your relationships and the emotions you experience in them, and how awareness of this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
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From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency


REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

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To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre


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