And yet, countless numbers of individuals believe that jealousy is the sign that they are in love, and that without jealousy, real love does not exist. Nothing could be further from the truth. Jealousy is always the sign of an insecure person. Always. So rather than thinking of all the people you know that have exhibited jealous behavior, think of yourself. Do you get jealous? If so, how do you feel thinking about the fact that it might signify that you are insecure in some aspect of your life? Probably the aspect of your life that tells you how much you think you are worth. Otherwise, there would be little connection between jealousy and insecurity.
The individual who doubts his or her self-worth is insecure. That same individual will become jealous very swiftly if he/she believes that the partner is paying attention to someone else, because, it follows, if they feel insecure about their self-worth, they will soon begin to wonder if the fact that the partner is paying attention to someone else, means that the other person is more valuable.
Why am I hammering in this point? It's most certainly not to make you feel uncomfortable. Rather, it's to make you look at yourself in a way that perhaps you have not yet done. If you do so, you might begin to realize what your jealousy is all about and then you might begin to realize that you can actually do something about it - not by controlling your partner who provokes your jealousy more carefully - but by beginning to work on your own insecurities. Probably they begin with a tremendous lack of self-love. Look on this blog, as well as on my other blog here (also check out the labels on the sidebars), and on my website's article page, in order to read further posts and articles about the subject of self-love and about what to do if it's lacking in you. Love yourself enough to do this.
It was Heinlein who wrote: love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other , or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
For much more about understanding your relationships and the emotions you experience in them, and how awareness about this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)
To download the first chapter, click here
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This ground-breaking book addresses:
• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship
It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships.
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency
REWIRING THE SOUL
For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self
(paperback or Kindle).To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.
Reviews From the Back Cover:
A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe
"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
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