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Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Could You Just Act Instead of React?


Do your buttons get pushed sometimes? If you're like most of us, it happens. But what you do then is much more important than the fact that (as you might be thinking) you are still at a place in your life where your buttons get pushed.

One possibility is that you react blindly. Your buttons got pushed and whoosh! You pounce. Not so good. Another possibility is that you have learned to count to 10 to keep your anger or other strong emotions at bay and only then react, probably in a much less explosive fashion. Much better. Finally, a third possibility is that you have become aware of yourself. Therefore when your buttons get pushed (assuming they still do), you are aware of the fact that they just got pushed, and your first inclination to pounce is immediately moderated by self-dialogue that reminds you that you actually wish to be the one who decides what emotions you will feel, and how you then react. So you first look for a place of inner calm. A mindfulness practice can bring you a long way towards this goal. Once you're in that inner place of equilibrium, balance, calm, harmony, and only then, do you decide what you will do. George Bernard Shaw once wrote: the possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react.

So now you may decide that a question of unhealthy boundaries has been raised by what just occurred between you and the other person, and so you choose to say something about that - in a way that for you will be a healthy and self-loving form of expression - in your quest to establish healthier boundaries in your life.

Or perhaps the buttons that were pushed - assuming you are going down the 'aware' route, have caused you to come to the realization (in that moment of self-reflection where you dialogue with yourself, indicating that you want to be, as said, the one who decides what you feel and how you react), that perhaps you need to look at yourself with regards to how quickly you become jealous, or suspicious, or possessive, etc. Therefore, what you now do will be focused on a healthy and self-loving manner of growth for yourself, in not only how you now speak with the other person, but also in what you do from now on, in order to grow forward from that point at which you have discovered your life to be at with regards to jealousy, etc.

So you can see, by these simple examples, how acting, and not reacting, does in fact, bring you along a much greater path of pregression in your life. It requires awareness - as does so much else - and it requires that you choose to do this.

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