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Monday, September 28, 2015

Look Inside First


Finding reasons out there for the multitude of things that go wrong in your life; judging or criticizing others for things you allow in yourself; blaming others (or circumstances) for things you justify in yourself, are all what many of us (myself included) do so very often in the course of our daily lives. Because it's always so much easier to see it out there.

Looking inside first is hard. But it can become a habit. And the more you do it, the more you realize the enormous degree of freedom it gives you because it signifies that you begin to choose how to react, as opposed to needing to find fault with or judge, or criticize, or look for reasons out there to justify whatever it is that is going on.

Think of it this way: when you do all those other things that allow you to avoid looking inside - how do you feel? Is it not true that while you may feel you now have a justification for whatever it is that is going on, you also don't really feel great? You may feel slightly superior, which may give you an edge, but it's not actually something that makes you feel good, is it?

Let's say you see a homeless person on the street. Let's say you give that person some coins. And let's say you feel sorry for him/her. But let's also say that all the while there is a little voice in you saying why can't he get a job? So here's the thing: perhaps he could get that job, or perhaps not. But it's not up to you to make that judgement call. That is his responsibility. Or his choice. But it is your choice to look inside yourself to determine why you need to judge. And it is also your job to be conscious enough about this in order to stop the judging and simply let be. It is your job to grow your inner self to the point where you no longer judge (or criticize or justify, etc.), because it is your growth you are interested in, isn't it? Or do you concern yourself about the growth of others while keeping yourself on a shelf of superiority that allows you to avoid looking at yourself?

I know, this is not necessarily fun stuff. But it's the stuff our potential growth is made of. Let's look at another example. Let's say you make a point of eating healthy food. Nothing processed. Mainly organic. No sugar. So now you are at the grocery store waiting in line behind a rather stout couple with a shopping cart full of ... you know ... all that stuff you wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole. And what thoughts course through your mind? (Mine too ... as I often say, the things I write about are not because I've surpassed all this mundane stuff and find myself floating on some spiritual cloud, but precisely because I also have work to do). So the same applies as in the example of the homeless person. It's not up to you to make that judgement call. That is their responsibility. Or their choice. But it is your choice to look inside yourself to determine why you need to judge. And it is also your job to be conscious enough about this in order to stop the judging and simply let be. It is your job to grow your inner self to the point where you no longer judge (or criticize or justify, etc.), because it is your growth you are interested in, isn't it? Or do you concern yourself about the growth of others while keeping yourself on a shelf of superiority that allows you to avoid looking at yourself?

So the choice to look inside first is a very important one. Don't let yourself bypass it and take the easy road. At least not if you want to grow.

Image: Tree sculpture by Keith Jennings: Tree Spirit

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