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Thursday, April 2, 2015

Small Changes Over Time Become Significant


Do you remember learning how to write? I'm not talking about spelling, but about forming letters. Spending hours copying the huge print letters in the teacher's handwriting on the blackboard into your notebook, trying to stay on the lines. Doing it over and over. Finally, your squiggles became legible and mom said: 'darling, how wonderful! You just wrote an 'A'!

The improvement in each of your attempts to get to the recognizable 'A' was minimal, but each improvement created that combination of lines that eventually allowed your mother (or someone) to be able to read what you had written, making all those small and apparently insignificant improvements most significant after all.

Likewise when you were learning how to speak and understand a foreign language. At first you understood nothing. Then you caught words here and there, then phrases, and finally whole sentences. Clearly, the erstwhile insignificant improvements in understanding, ultimately led to a most significant improvement after all, the allowed you to actually speak the language. We can apply the analogy to sports, to music, public speaking, to sewing, to studying, to fishing, to playing tennis, and any activity you can think of at all.

We know all of this, and yet we seem to find it so difficult to apply it to our relationships. Imagine making small - and apparently insignificant - improvements in how patient you are with your partner. Or small - apparently insignificant - improvements in how considerate you are. Or small - and apparently insignificant - improvements in how much you help around the house, or are willing to occasionally go to football games or the opera (insert whatever your spouse loves doing that you don't like). Or small - and apparently insignificant - improvements in how much you move that half mile towards your partner in those things he/she has often asked you to think about or do, or share with him/her.

As in the examples about learning how to form letters, or a new language, in these relationship examples your tiny steps towards improvement do add up to significant improvements over the long term. You are the only one who can intend this and you are the only one who can then choose to actually do it. As Tom Peters said: there is no such thing as an insignificant improvement.

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