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Wednesday, September 10, 2014

In the Heat of the Argument


Arguments come about - evidently - because we disagree with another person or several persons or many others. We want to demonstrate that we are right. Needing to be right is the ego trying to make us lose sight of peace, love and truth. Giving Up the Need to Be Right is an entire article about this subject. 

But in today's post, I simply want to prevail on you to keep your eyes on truth. In a marriage or love relationship if you are not aware of yourself as the heat of an argument escalates, it will be impossible to keep your eyes on anything other than your need to be right. Needing to be right is all you focus on if you are not remaining aware and conscious. This means - simply put - that your chances for resolving in a spirit of peace, love, and truth are low, as opposed to the very high chances you have to achieve that if you remain aware. Publius Syrius very rightly said: In a heated argument we are apt to lose sight of the truth, but if he had added that by remaining aware this has excellent chances of not occurring, he would have been even more correct.

Remaining aware implies that as tempers threaten to flare, or as harsh words sit on the tip of your tongue, being aware allows you just that second or two of a gap before any of that happens, and hence allows you to make a better choice. It allows you to keep your eye on peace as opposed to keeping it on being right - which could be likened to the difference between allowing the ego to control you during the course of this argument, or allowing your soul to do so (also called noon-local consciousness).

I choose to assume that you are very interested in maintaining a high level of peace, love and truth in your relationships. In that case, how much practice are you putting into remaining aware at all times?

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