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Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Do You Manage Your Emotions or Do Your Emotions Manage You?


Managing your emotions is something many people have difficulty learning how to do, other than sternly or stoically suppressing them, which is clearly not a great solution, because as you probably know, what you suppress comes out to haunt you in another, totally unexpected place. Therefore we might say that for a great number of people, emotions manage them, as opposed to the alternative where they are the ones who manage the emotions.

When your emotions manage you, you are at their mercy - never a particularly brilliant state of affairs. Your inner state shifts back and forth like a leaf moves in the wind, with little - if any - will of its own.

So clearly, it behooves you to learn how to manage your emotions. In order to do this, it is a good idea to begin with a practice of mindfulness that will show you the volatility and 'willy-nilly-ness' of your thoughts that arise unbidden in your mind. Your thoughts about something bring about most of your emotions. 
  • upon receiving a diagnosis of cancer, your thoughts may turn to the difficulty and problems inherent in chemotherapy, surgery, or radiation therapy, as well as the potential of dying. Those thoughts are what bring about the emotion of fear.
  • upon receiving poor examination results, your thoughts may turn to the fact that you might not get your degree, or pass the bar exam, etc. Those thoughts are what bring about emotions.
  • upon hearing a song on the radio that reminds you of an ill-fated love affair, your thoughts turn nostalgic and you remember events that you wish still formed part of your life. Those thoughts are what bring about the emotion of pain.
Learning to manage your thoughts come before learning how to manage your emotions, and it requires being present in order to be aware of what is going on in your mind and in order to be able to choose those thoughts in ways that are beneficial to you. Hence mindfulness.

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