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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Friday, June 20, 2014

Always Love - No Matter What


It's so easy to love those close to us, the ones that treat us well, and the ones who cause us no suffering. The matter begins to get complicated when you try to love those who treat you badly, who denigrate you, who let you know in some fashion that they don't care for you, and who make you suffer, not to mention all those who are barely on your radar, but they are there. The people you pass on the street, the beggar, the homeless person, the dirty person, the one who sing-songs to him or herself while walking down the street, the bad drivers, the inconsiderate drivers and parkers, and a long list of etceteras.

How on earth can you love all of these people? 

Let's assume you are interested in spiritual growth. Let's further assume you want to evolve as much as you possibly can. You already participate in many activities that move you in that direction. Perhaps you are a member of some kind of spiritual community that gathers at regular intervals to discuss and meditate. Perhaps you practice mindfulness when you are on your own. Perhaps you spend time reading books on these subjects, listening to seminars, viewing videos, and attending retreats or conferences geared in this direction. But maybe, just maybe, you aren't actually working on the matter of loving everyone.

It's actually a huge matter in your life - my life - everyone's life. It's not a matter that should be shelved for a better day. It's not a matter to be ignored because - at least initially - it doesn't give you (me) the uplifting vibe that you get by sitting in communion with your fellow seekers.

So how do you get there? I'm not anywhere near there myself, so all I can tell you is how I go about attempting to strengthen this muscle inside of me. I intend it. So when that idiot does something that almost creates an accident, or when that inconsiderate person left his/her double-parked locking mine into place, or when that dirty person asks me for money, or when the rude customer service agent from the electricity company interrupts me for the third time, and so on, I breathe in, mentally offer a 'bless you', and breathe out, telling myself that while I am not yet quite sure how to love this person, I intend it, and while I am intending it, I will try to send them love - perhaps only love from my rational mind, and not yet my heart, but if I repeat this process day after day, with all the wonderful challenges life offers me in order to be able to firm up that love muscle, I will get there.

Because here's the thing: if I don't do this, I will never be able to get very far on that road to spiritual enlightenment: to higher consciousness. It's as though - by not doing this, no matter how many other spiritually-connected things I do, and no matter how much I meditate - I am forever remaining at some kind of kindergarten level in the spiritual arena. Begin by intending and you will get there.

Image: Mount Pulag, Philippines by Rolen Facundo

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.

Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin (to be released Summer 2014)


My new book (due out summer 2014), deals with a very important subject. Neediness and emotional unavailability are two sides of the same coin because both are based on a lack of self love, a fear of love, and a fear of the hurt that love can engender due to the vulnerability that being in love generally evokes. A person may live out one side of the coin (neediness) in several relationships and then - in a new relationship - may find him or herself living out the other side of the coin (emotional unavailability).
                Neither of these tend to be deliberate because there is never anything consciously deliberate about the way a defense mechanism arises in childhood. A man who refuses to commit should not blithely be judged as being manipulative or callous although on the surface he may very well appear to be so. Furthermore, the older he gets, the more of a history of this nature he acquires, and hence the more those who sit in judgement reach the conclusion that they are right. The same could, of course, be said about the emotionally unavailable woman. Another case in point: a woman whose neediness may appear as emotionally manipulative (of her partner, parents, children, or friends), generally also does not behave this way in a deliberate fashion. The same could be said about the needy man.
                Nevertheless some individuals, who have used these defense mechanisms over many years, have observed their effect on others, and so the emotionally unavailable man or woman may have noticed that this behavior magically attracts a certain kind of partner. Likewise, the needy man or woman will have observed that certain individuals always seem to do their bidding, if the neediness in expressed in emotionally manipulative ways.
                This book dissects the causes and solutions of these defense mechanisms, paving the road - for those who wish to change the inner landscape of their emotional constraints - to live and be able to love more freely.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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