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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

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Friday, May 2, 2014

Acting - Not Reacting


Do your buttons get pushed sometimes? If you're like most of us, it happens. But what you do then is much more important than the fact that (as you might be thinking) that you are still at a place in your life where your buttons get pushed.

One possibility is that you react blindly. Your buttons got pushed and whoosh! You pounce. Not so good. Another possibility is that you have learned to count to 10 to keep your anger or other strong emotion at bay and only then react, probably in a much less explosive fashion. Much better. Finally, a third possibility is that you have become aware of yourself. Therefore when your buttons get pushed (assuming they still do), you are aware of the fact that they just got pushed, and your first inclination to pounce is immediately moderated by self-dialogue that reminds you that you actually wish to be the one who decides what emotions you will feel, and how you then react. So you first look for a place of inner calm. Mindfulness practices can bring you a long way towards this goal. Once you're in that inner place of equilibrium, balance, calm, harmony, and only then, do you decide what you will do. George Bernard Shaw once wrote: the possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react.

So now you may decide that a question of unhealthy boundaries has been raised by what just occurred between you and the other person, and so you choose to say something about that - in a way that for you will be a healthy and self-loving form of expression - in your quest to establish healthier boundaries in your life.

Or perhaps the buttons that were pushed - assuming you are going down the 'aware' route, have caused you to come to the realization (in that moment of self-reflection where you dialogue with yourself, indicating that you want to be, as said, the one who decides what you feel and how you react), that perhaps you need to look at yourself with regards to how quickly you become jealous, or suspicious, or possessive, etc. Therefore, what you now do will be focused on a healthy and self-loving manner of growth for yourself, in not only how you now speak with the other person, but also in what you do from now on, in order to grow forward from that point at which you have discovered your life to be at with regards to jealousy, etc.

So you can see, by these simple examples, how acting, and not reacting, does in fact, bring you along a much greater path of pregression in your life. It requires awareness - as does so much else - and it requires that you choose to do this.
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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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