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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Moving Beyond the Threshold


Let's discuss change, newness, and the unknown a bit today. We tend to fear it or stress about it. We tend to think that because we are changing to something different (job, challenge, city, country, relationship, environment of any kind, way of eating), or doing something new, or going to some type of unknown element in our lives as opposed to what we have done to this point, we will have difficulty with it or even fail, or perhaps even suffer. The new aspect can even be something such as changing a behavior, exchanging one way of doing something for another, because we have come to recognize that it is better (for example, when people learn to set boundaries (see also Do Your Relationship Boundaries Contribute to Your Well-Being?). So when they do this, people are generally fearful at the beginning of putting this new behavior into practice, because even though they see its great value for their own psychological health (and that of any of their relationships), actually doing what it takes to have healthy boundaries can be daunting when one has not been doing it because you do run the risk of no longer being liked or approved by the person with whom you are setting those boundaries.

But the real point of today’s post is to discuss the fear.

Fear of the unknown. Fear of the untried. Fear of stepping outside of our comfort zone (see also Leaving Your Comfort Zone: Fear of Emotional Expression.

What exactly does this fear tell us?

First of all, welcome it. Recognize that it is the hallmark of growth to come. Fear of this type signals that as you cross a new threshold into a new arena, you will be learning something that will move your process of growth and development up a notch. Potentially it will make you more of that which you could be.

Secondly, recognize that you have been in this place many times before, with all the other things you have done or lived through for the first time in your life in the past, and now you are totally at ease and comfortable with them. You passed over the threshold when you did whatever that other thing was for the first time, and now you are in a totally new place. But since you are already comfortable with whatever it was that once caused your fear, you no longer view it as something threatening and fearful. Use that "success" experience (the Germans call it Erfolgserlebniss) to help you cross the new threshold. Use the knowledge that what was once so far outside your comfort zone, has now become your new comfort zone. Recognize that the fear you feel indicates that you are in the process of expanding this comfort zone once again, and that this will bring about new growth.

In other words: fear that is felt before starting something new could in fact be a good sign, because it means you are on the road of growth again. Your life and your world are expanding, and you are vital and vibrant and alive in this process. As such fear could be defined as your friend.

Image: I wish I could give credit, but don't know whose it is. If you know, please let me know.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

How Exhilarating is Your Relationship?


Are you still exhilarated when you think of your partner? If you've been together for a while, chances are the answer to that question is not a resounding yes. Exhilaration implies not only excitement, but also joy, a sense of mystery and discovery, fascination, elation, and delight. Quite a mouthful, especially if you want to apply it to a partner who no longer really evokes those feelings in you (or perhaps never did).

There are many ways to keep some of those feelings alive, re-kindle them, or even start them off if they were never there. Many people suggest that a couple have a weekly 'date night', or that they plan the occasional weekend away from home, especially if they have children. But I believe that there are a number of other things - perhaps much more important - that are essential to keeping the exhilaration alive:
  • each partner needs to be as conscious as possible
  • being conscious implies that each partner is developing an aware relationship with him or herself. That means that there is a deep connection to the self which remains steadfast whether the relationship to the partner is good or not
  • each partner needs to recognize his/her own responsibility for his/her own inner well-being (as opposed to expecting a feeling of well-being from the partner. That can also happen, but in the first instance inner well-being needs to come from - be supplied by - oneself).
  • with all of the above in place, the partners will be able to connect to each other in ways that would not be possible if the above were not in place
  • this kind of connection allows exhilaration between the partners to continue to flow
  • this is connection that reaches into the soul of each of the partners, and that is precisely the reason why it keeps exhilaration alive
None of the above is difficult, but it does require attention and intention. Also some practice and discipline. But the end result and the final gift to yourself and your partnership is so monumentally wonderful, that not to do it makes no sense.


Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Racism, Self-Reflection & Oneness


With the recent spate of racial slurs in the international sports world, I wanted to add my voice to the numerous others who are posting and writing about a world that is - in some ways - still going mad. The problem is, we're no longer in WWII, nor are we any longer a world that doesn't - in the flash of a Youtube video gone viral - show us what someone else is doing or saying, whether in a war situation, or in a more private one that somehow got caught on tape. Yet many continue to behave as though we were still in the Middle Ages. Many continue to believe that this race or that is less. Less good, less worthy, less valuable.

It's almost ironic. How on earth have we failed to learn after so muuch misery - on all sides - over so many millennia?

I know a few people who hold racist beliefs. I could shun them, but I don't. One of the reasons is that they are sometimes well-read and can actually talk about some interesting subjects (beyond their racist ideas), that are more to my liking than the latest reality TV show or winner on the X-Factor. However, discussing their racist ideas is actually verboten. If we meet for a coffee, that is my rule. But here is another point. Since I long ago realized that I was unable to shake their belief system by arguments and making fine points about history, etc., I soon also realized that I was making inroads by simply being me. In other words, I saw that there was interest in my inner peace as a way of life; that there was interest in my lack of need to add drama to my life by expostulating about this or that in angry or indignant or rabble-rousing ways. Of course I have opinions, but they're mine, and I'm not fueled by needing anyone else to accept them for their own life. So the fact that by simply being me was making inroads, gave me hope. Not Polyanna hope, but hope that something in the firmly entrenched neural pathways could be swayed ... gently, but that in the ultimate instance might get results where other methods did not.

For a racist to change, there must be self-reflection. And it is my contention that only someone who is already self-reflective, can mirror this for the racist. This means - in very simple terms - that the more of us who are self-reflective, living our lives in a self-reflective way, the more there is a chance that we can have an impact on those who are not.

Clearly, laws must also exist to protect individuals and groups from racism, as there must be educational programs that teach those who continue to nurture racist beliefs to look at their beliefs from other points of view, and to be taught that much - if not most - of racist belief rests on stereoptyical myths that have nothing to do with reality. Much can be done on local, state, and governmental levels.

But you and I - we who are just the little guys in the street - can also do much by becoming more and more self-reflective and by showing - by the way we live our lives - that there are other, more compassionate and self-beneficial ways to walk through a lifetime than by being a racist.

And that, of course, leads us to another step, far further up the ladder of understanding, self-reflection, and enlightenment: the concept that we are all one. If quantum physics is now extolling this as the new understanding of matter, then how can we possibly continue to believe that you are less than I, or they are less than we are?

Choose to live your life in a way that gives others something to emulate. Choose to do this, not only because you are not racist, but because you have grasped this idea of us all being one, and because you know on some level, that until we all get on board with it, our world will be so much less than it could be.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Karma: Some Considerations


Karma is a term that has much fascinated me over the years. Sowing and reaping always sent a shiver of dread ... and anticipation down my spine, because of course it could go either way, depending on your actions, at least in the sense it is commonly used.

In my 30's I began reading articles and other material about 'leaving the wheel of karma' and I found that just as fascinating because in some sense it implied:
  • if you live well and do good you might get off (I was just never sure 'how much' good you had to do to deserve this ... would Gandhi have been a recipient of the 'getting off the wheel' prize and Mandela not because the latter had not lived peacefully prior to being shut up in Robben Island?)
  • if you took on a great many 'challenges' or tasks in life you might get off (again, I was never sure how 'awful' those challenges had to be: did losing your children to hunger in Sudan count? Did getting raped by Russian soldiers during WWII count? What if you survived and then became a banker and embezzled funds? Would Job's suffering have counted?)
Believe me, I don't mean any of the above facetiously - I was truly trying to understand, so in some fashion, my doubts and questions were quite valid. What was the benchmark? How could I figure this out?

Then in my 40's I came across further information that resonated a great deal. In essence it said that more than 'doing good' and more than 'taking on challenges', getting off the wheel of karma had much more to do with how you reacted to the people n your life - any of the people, even the newspaper vendor or the girl at the check-out counter.

Why was I so keen to get off this 'wheel'? At an earlier stage - for me - it meant I could 'go home'; I no longer need to return 'here'. At a later stage it simply meant no longer needing to repeat any of the oft-repeated past in any future of any kind because I had already learned all of that. Much of this had to do with forgiving. Even more had to do with loving, with being kind and compassionate. This gave me a sense of peace. But, as you will see below, this striving for results, so to speak, still means being bound to the wheel, or chain.

Thich Nhat Hanh (a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk) translates 'interdependent origination' (karma) as:

This is, because that is.
This is not, because that is not.
This ceases to be, because that ceases to be.

Recently I had the opportunity to revisit some old Alan Watts (1915 - 1973) material. A much wiser soul than myself who had clearly done much more work on the subject than I, and so I would encourage you to listen to the six minutes of video below:

 

Watts states that as Hindus and Buddhists use karma it means action, slightly different than our general Western conception of the term: action to signify cause and effect. Watts points out that karma actually means the interdependent origination of all the forms and phases of life. Note the word 'interdependent'. He goes on to say that there are two visions of karma in Buddhism, where one vision does indeed, look upon it as a chain, a kind of vicious circle, where, as long as you are attached to the outcome (good or evil), you remain bound to the chain. The other vision of karma - the mutual interpenetration of all things and events - the deepest level of reality - this entire cosmos is a completely harmonious and blissful manifestation of everything in a state of total enlightenment and mutual compassion. So the task for everyone is to follow this path and cease from the illusion of separation.

Chogyam Trungpa, a Buddhist meditation master (1939 - 1987) wrote: "The four noble truths are divided into two sections. The first two truths - the truth of suffering and the origin of suffering - are studies of the samsaric (Samsara - the repeating cycle of birth, life, and death, or reincarnation) version of ourselves and the reasons we arrived in certain situations or came to particular conclusions about ourselves. The second two truth - the truth of cessation and the truth of the path - are studies of how we could go beyond or overcome it. [...] Suffering is regarded as the result of samsara and the origin of suffering is regarded as the cause of samsara. The path is regarded as the cause of nirvana and cessation of suffering as the result."

So the path is to seek enlightenment. Leave your ego at home. And move into non-attachment to results.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Containing Pain by Caring Enough


Pain is one of the biggest motivators for people to come and see someone like myself. Pain can be, as most of us know, devastating. Pain can not be "thought" away. Pain has a time, and, just like grief, which is a version of pain, it can have stages and a process that you have to live through before you can get to the other side.

So this article is not about talking yourself out of the pain. Or about pretending it's not there by distracting yourself. Or about minimizing it. Or about making you think you should be stalwart and strong, and grin and bear it, and get out to the other end as quickly and staunchly as possible.

Rather, this article is about coming to an understanding that precisely when you are suffering and in pain, is when you need to be able to care for yourself enough, and love yourself enough, to keep your inner energetic frequency in the best place possible, in order to be able to survive this descent into pain as healthily as possible.

Most of us, when pain comes knocking, tend to lose whatever grasp we have on awareness and fall into the trap of allowing our thoughts to take over. And so we re-visit the place of the pain over and over again. See also Tolle's writing about the pain body and Chris Griscom's work on the emotional body, as I have written about elsewhere:
But if we somehow manage to stay aware, we are in a position to be able to observe our thoughts, as opposed to being tortured by them about whatever it is that is causing the pain in our life. And when we are able to observe our thoughts, we are at the beginning of the place where we can choose our thoughts. And if we can choose our thoughts, we can choose to focus elsewhere. Not to distract ourselves from the pain, but to take good care of ourselves. As we would if we had a fever. Or a cut. We would take aspirin, or bandage the cut, or wash it with an antiseptic. We would not carry on with the fever, syaing to ourselves that we did not have a choice. And we would not leave the cut infected, telling ourselves that there was no way to do anything about it. We would take care of it. And so we need to begin to learn to take care of ourselves when we are in pain, by recognizing that it is a choice.

Here are some famous quotes on the subject:

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Marcus Aurelius

It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. Epictetus

Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you respond to it. Unknown

Must you continue to be your own cross? No matter which way God leads you, you change everything into bitterness by constantly brooding over everything. For the love of God, replace all this self-scrutiny with a pure and simple glance at God's goodness. Saint Jeanne Chantal

Pain is never permanent. Teresa of Avila

Love does not cause suffering: what causes it is the sense of ownership, which is love's opposite. Antoine de Saint-Exupery

To become a spectator of one's own life is to escape the suffering of life. Oscar Wilde

A wise man, recognizing that the world is but an illusion, does not act as if it is real, so he escapes the suffering. Buddha

Pain in life is inevitable but suffering is not. Pain is what the world does to you, suffering is what you do to yourself. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. First Noble Truth (Buddhism)

Image: Quiver Trees near Keetmanshoop, Namibia by Lizzie Shepherd-Corbis

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Listening to Key Moments


Self-reflection is key to living an aware life. Many of us are not raised doing this because our parents didn't do it, and we often only come to it as we progress through life's stage. Others never come to it, unless they stumble across the concept.


It's fundamental to begin something - anything - to correct that limitation and to begin to have an inkling of who you are. Here are some relatively simple things you can begin to do immediately, and until you start seeing the treasure you are about to unveil, and will crave doing this, you need not even spend a great deal of time on it. Remember that knowing the self is - in part - reflecting upon the self, and self-reflection implies reflecting upon one's life. It was Socrates who said: the unexamined life is not worth living, and it was Aristotle who said: knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. If you set out to follow the suggestion below, your life will become enormously enriched; if you let it go, or decide to do it at some other time, you will not have access to the treasure inside. It was Jung who said: your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.

Here is one tool (of many) to help you do it:

Examine your time line: 

This often results in being one of the most interesting self-reflective exercises you can do. Take one piece of paper for each year of your life. If you are 52, you will need 52 sheets of paper.  At the top of each sheet, write your age (0 years, 1 year, 2 years, etc.), and the year in question, i.e., in 1981 you were five. Then write down the address (if you don't remember the street, just put the city or the subdivision of the city in which you lived each year), as well as who lived with you at that location that year, i.e., your parents, your paternal grandmother, your older siblings, a nanny, the dog. Also write down the kindergarten, school, or college you were attending, or the company at which you were working. Make a note of important friends, neighbors, or colleagues. This entire preamble serves to jog your memory about that year of your life. If you will leave the sheaf of papers lying in a convenient location, perhaps on your bedroom dresser, each time you think of something, you can add it to the appropriate year. It may take you a while to 'populate' the sheets in bullet fashion, but you will begin to see pieces of a puzzle emerging, and you will begin to understand yourself better. You may also begin to see aspects of yourself that you had never considered.

It was Frederick Buechner who said: listen to your life. All moments are key moments. And of course the best way you can listen to your life is by truly knowing what happened and what is happening by becoming self-reflective.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, May 12, 2014

Living a Minimalist Life


The idea of reducing material belongings, acquiring less, needing less, is well-known by now. This post is not about clearing your physical space. Rather, it's about clearing your psychological, emotional, and spiritual space.
  • How many times a day do your thoughts go to someone who has recently done something that bothers you? Maybe your spouse, child, friend, neighbour, or just someone on Twitter. How much of your mental space is being taken up by that 'rumination' as opposed to proactive resolution? It's unnecessary clutter. 
  • How many times a day do you remember how it felt - feels - will feel when such-and-such happened to you? Or when so-and-so did that thing to you? Or when you did that thing that left such embarrassment, or humiliation, or scars? How much of your emotional space is being taken up by that remembering and reliving of emotions as opposed to proactive resolution?  It's unnecessary clutter. 
  • How many times a day do you think about something that relates to your spiritual life - or feel something that relates to it - from the point of view of you not being good enough, or you not having 'grown' enough, or you needing to show others how they should move towards their spiritual goals? How much of your spiritual space is being taken up by these thoughts and emotions as opposed to beginning to love yourself better and simply letting others be? It's unnecessary clutter.
Of course we could list a great many other examples. But you get the gist. This is just like 'going minimalist' in your house. Paring down those thoughts and emotions that have to do with others (that can't be controlled by you), or that have to do with your own past actions and reactions (that can no longer be changed), or that have to do with 'showing others how to live', or with a lack of feeling good about yourself, are all, in essence, unnecessary clutter. Get rid of them and begin the process of making your inner house shine with only those items that truly look good and allow you to feel good. Do you want all of that extra clutter or do you want to see all that extra space that allows you to move about freely? It's a choice. And as always, it's up to you.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 

From the Introduction: It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.