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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The Key to Your Universe


How do you know whether your day I going well? Silly question, you say with derision. It's obvious, isn't it? A day goes well when it has few hitches. It goes well when there are no arguments, when I don't get upset, when no one sticks their face in my face, and when I don't have to worry about making difficult decisions. My day goes well when the sun shines in all senses of the word. 

Ok. I agree. Those days are good indeed. No issues with that at all.

But ... what happens when your day is not like that in the least? The sun failed to shine, people are confronting you with situations too difficult to contemplate, challenges and obstacles have arisen, and you simply can't remember a worse day.

This is where you are the one who gets to choose how well your day goes. It's not a question of miraculously making problems issues disappear, but of choosing to react in new ways despite those circumstances. It was Frederick Frieseke who said: The key to your universe is that you can choose. Countless other wise women and men have said similar things. Perhaps we should take note.

So of course that means that when the going gets rough - if you are aware, and if you recognize there is always a choice, and if you have decided to taken full responsibility for all you think, feel, say and do including how you react in the face of any kind of circumstances at all - you will choose to think, feel, and react about this circumstance in a way that is 'inner peace-producing'; that creates inner calm; that allow you to remain (or relatively quickly return to) a place of inner harmony and tranquility. Such a choice is not only self-responsible, but consequently a self-loving choice; i.e., a choice where you give yourself the subliminal message that you love yourself enough to do this for yourself - and by 'do this' I mean return to an inner state of calm, peace, tranquility, and harmony. Furthermore, such an inner environment promotes a far more positive potential for encountering solutions, than when you angrily or dejectedly tell yourself that once again you are living through awful day.

To reiterate, in order for this to work, you need to be aware, and in order for you to get there, you'll need to develop some awareness muscles (see Remembering to Remember), you'll need to agree that choice is always possible and you'll have decided to take on responsibility for yourself in all ways (see Making Choices: Taking Responsibility for Our Lives), and finally, you'll learn how to manage your self-talk, your inner dialogue, when necessary (see Who Pushes Your Buttons?), in order to implement all of the above.

This is not a very hard thing to do. It requires a bit of discipline in order to make it a practice, it also requires a desire or intention to make it so, and it requires choice. Choosing to do this will change your life. Literally.

Image: Expansive view from the hills above Tarifa, Spain, across the Spanish coastline, including the tip of the town of Tarifa, over the Straits of Gibraltar to the African continent and the Rif Mountains, only 14 km away. Photographer: Gabriella Kortsch

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books.   

Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a paragraph from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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