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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

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Wednesday, March 5, 2014

The Ego & Its White Noise


The way I use the word ego in this post is not related so much to egotist, or self-serving and selfish, but in the way many writers including ACIM (A Course in Miracles) use it to indicate the part of ourselves that creates mindless chatter through our continual thoughts that come unbidden and willy-nilly, and that tends to be so loud that we do not hear another part of ourselves that is the part I would like to call our true self. Some, among others C.G. Jung and Joseph Campbell, call this 'true self' the higher self, or the divine self, the eternal self, the intuitive self, or the individuated self. What we call it is not terribly important, as long as we know what we mean by the terms "ego" and "not-ego".

So in a conversation between these two, about any topic at all, due to the fact that most of us are not yet very much acquainted with the true self, the louder and more insistent voice would come from the ego. At best, it would be convincing in the way it insinuates itself about all manner of things that are not ncessarily what are best for us, and at worst, we would not even be aware of it, let alone be aware of the true self, because the thoughts that the ego befuddles us with, confuses us with, lies to us with, are so haphazard, and so - seemingly - out of our control, that when people are first confronted with the idea that we have this ego and then another part which I am calling the true self, they can't even fathom it, as they have lived with this background (and foreground) of "white noise" all their lives without being aware of it.

Sometimes you can catch the other, the one that is really you, and that has your best interests at heart, when, for example, - just before exploding into an argument with someone who has provoked you (or so you think, and therefore you are justified in exploding, you say to yourself), - you hear a little faint voice that says this is actually not necessary. Or perhaps it says there are other ways of solving this. So you become aware of this faint voice, just briefly, just for a nano-second, but because the voice is so faint, or the words so brief, you plunge into the other action (the explosion), because the words and thoughts that underscore the rightness of it are so much stronger in you. We might say that the neural pathway connected to that particular decision and action is very, very stong indeed, and the neural pathway connected to the other one - the one counselling you to seek another way of solving this - is very, very weak.

And so, in hindsight, if we care to remember, we become aware of the existence of this other part of ourselves, that is so fragile, so weak, so undeveloped, so not there in our conscious awareness on a 24/7 basis, that we scarcely even believe that it belongs to us.

But it does. And we need to strengthen it. Without it, the ego will always win. Without it, we - our true self - will never win.

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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

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To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

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To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a paragraph from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


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