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Tuesday, February 18, 2014

The Secret to Choosing Good Thoughts


A lotus flower that comes from the mud (remember the by now well-known adage by Thich Nhat Hanh: no mud, no lotus), comes despite the mud, and also because of the mud.

When it comes to choosing good thoughts you can draw on that analogy. Let's assume you have a thought that stresses you, frightens you, pains you. You might be thinking how will I ever resolve my health problem / my financial issues / my relationship difficulties / my professional situation / my legal setbacks, and so on. Many who espouse using affirmations in order to deal with such thoughts, i.e., making a positive thought of the negative one, are - or so I believe - despite being well-intentioned, missing the point.

First it is necessary to acknowledge the problem, the fear, the stress, the issue. Just as the lotus accepts the mud, we might say. It does not ignore it, nor does it malign it. It uses it. So you can use the negative thought as a stepping stone or ramp from which to move forward. Therefore, having acknowledged its presence in your life, you can now say to yourself (much of this kind of work can take place inside your head and heart): 'here you are, I don't yet know what to do about you, but I can choose to put my attention elsewhere'. This means that by removing the energy of your focus from the negative thought, and deliberately (by choosing to do so), placing the energy of your focus on something different - something that will help you shift your inner state at the very minimum from one of turmoil to one of harmony - you literally wrest power from the negative thought and begin to give power to another part of yourself each time you repeat this process.

And thus the lotus grows. Perhaps still under the mud. Perhaps not yet visible in all its glory. But eventually it will surface and show the world the beauty inherent in it. As can you.

In my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (download an excerpt here), I wrote: choosing where you focus your thoughts is NOT repressing the bad ones but giving energy to better ones.

Note: having acknowledged a problem's existence in your life clearly also requires proactive work on it. However, this is never reminating and indulging in worry, negativity, and fear. Being proactive about it means that you may consult with an expert, get a second opinion, do some research yourself, polish your CV or skills, etc., but then, after having dedicated some time each day to this endeavor to proactively resolve whatever it is, you then do the above, i.e., you focus elsewhere in order to not indulge in negative thoughts. This shifting of your inner state by doing so, will change your energetic frequency, and from that new energetic vantage point, you may see windows or doors where before you only saw walls.

Also see my new website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may read quotations or download excerpts from any of my books. 
 
Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch:
 
Rewiring the Soul

Click here to download the first chapter.
To see the Table of Contents click here

Reviews From the Back Cover:

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself 

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come."
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of: Ecstasy is a New Frequency

“Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 

Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 


The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self 


My new book: The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self, is just out. Click here to download an excerpt. 
Here is a paragraph from the Introduction:

It is your right to live a life of love. It is your right to understand that loving yourself first is not a selfish way of behavior, but one that allows you to live that life of love. However, it's highly probable that you never got the instruction manual explaining exactly how to accomplish this. Possibly your family - and it may have been a loving family - considered loving the self an act of selfishness. Or perhaps the members of your family simply didn't practice loving the self, and of course, what you didn't see - what was not shown to you - while you were growing up, meant that you just didn't learn how to apply it to yourself. The closer you are able to move towards loving yourself, the closer you will be to living a life of love - quite independently of whether you are in a love relationship or not. A life of love can be lived with or without a partnership, because a life of love implies that you know that it all begins with you by loving the self. The more clearly you understand how to love yourself, the more clearly you will see that it is very hard - if not impossible - to love others in ways that are unrelated to fulfilling any of your needs. Loving yourself first is - for so many of us - one of the hardest things we will ever learn how to do. But know this: the benefits affect you in every particle of your being - body, mind, and soul - and are greater than you will ever be able to imagine.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul so named for my first book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

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