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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Monday, May 27, 2013

Receiving Joy From Others ... Or Not


Can you imagine what would happen if stores ran out of toothpaste? Or soap? Or toilet paper? It might not be much fun, but we'd make do with substitutes: perhaps bicarbonate of soda for brushing our teeth, perhaps we'd pull out some of those recipes from our grandmothers and begin to make out own soap, or perhaps we'd start saving newspapers and magazines to cut into conveniently-sized pieces and use those instead of toilet paper. In other words, we'd become independent of the commercial product or the stores, and we'd make or substitute our own. To a degree you might say that we would be in charge of our supply of these products, which if we carry the analogy a bit further, might signify greater freedom.

Now let's move on to joy. As long as we are dependent on others (and 'things') for the joy in our lives, we run the risk of joy disappearing from our lives. As long as my partner loves me in the way I want and expect him/her to, joy will be a part of my life. As long as I am able to buy given products (a certain kind of car, clothing, house, vacations, digital devices, etc.), joy (or so I believe) forms part of my life. But if the partner falls out of love with me, or if my friends desert me, or my family disapproves of me, or I no longer have the money to buy what I might like to have, joy will be a much harder commodity to come by.

And that is precisely where I wanted to take you today. Do you think it's right that joy comes to you from the outside, through external mechanisms? Do you think that makes sense? Do you think that is intelligent? Even though that is the way our world, our society, and our culture work, and how they immure us to another way of thinking, you must (I hope) be aware of the fact that true joy emanates from within. In other words: you are the one who supplies yourself with the truest variant of joy - once you decide to seek a connection with your self, and once you understand that such a connection is the wellspring of joy.

I'm not denying that love from others, external accomplishments, and material things give us joy. What I'm stating is that as long as we depend mainly on that for our joy, we are doomed to fail because what is external to ourselves can not be relied upon. People may change, accomplishments may wither away and die, and money may suddenly be in short supply, but once you have established a connection with the self, you need never lose it, and hence you need never lose the source for joy. If you decide to be in charge of the joy in your life, you will have joy whether you receive it from others or not.



For much more about understanding how the connection to yourself can make such a difference in your relationships and the emotions you experience in them, and how awareness of this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here


From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.


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