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"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Offering Love Even When You Hurt


What do you do when someone hurts your feelings? How do you react when someone shows you that they disapprove of you? What do you say when someone insults you? In all of these instances, the 'someone' I'm referring to, is someone you love. I'm not even going to the place where this happens with someone out there with whom you have little relationship. Let's first - in today's post - just discuss it in terms of those you love or care for. So you've been hurt, maligned, disapproved of, criticized, judged to be lacking in some way, ridiculed, compared to another who does whatever it is you are attempting better, and insulted. You've been misunderstood and you very much feel unloved. What do you do?

Spiritual guidelines suggest that this is a good place to initiate a practice of loving or showing love despite all of this. This does not mean you should accept abuse and it also does not mean you should allow others to step all over your boundaries. But it does mean that you can react lovingly. Compassionately. You can react from a space where you are aware of the fact that none of us has achieved full enlightenment, and without that we are prone not only to all that has been heaped on you just now, but also prone to the primordial reaction that has arisen out of your self.  No one suggests this is easy. What it is, however, is a way to practice becoming more of what you are. What a goal to reach for! If you were a piece of coal and somehow knew you could become a brilliant piece of gold, would you not wish to undergo that process of transformation? And if you furthermore learned that it lies entirely in your own hands, would that not make you even more eager to begin the process right now? What is stopping you? Think about it. The thing that is most likely interfering with your decision to do this is your ego - the part of you that wants to be right, better, and more than another. And if that is what is stopping you, it already tells you that your 'coal' part could really use some polishing. Another part of you that may be stopping you, is your lack of self-love. Without a measure of self-love, it is very hard to be compassionate and loving with others. David Deida wrote: spiritual practice is the capacity to offer your love even when you feel hurt, closed down, tense, angry, misunderstood or hated.


For much more about understanding how love, compassion, and appreciation - even when things are difficult - can make such a difference in your relationships and the emotions you experience in them, and how awareness of this can help you find love, and move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here


From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the path towards life meaning and the inner quest, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.


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