This post is dedicated to all those people who have seen love walk into their life and who are considering letting it walk by them. All those people who have had the good fortune to know love, but who are contemplating not getting properly acquainted. All those people who don’t realize that love may happen more than once in a lifetime, but it is not a commodity that should be squandered or blithely thrown away.
Grab the brass ring when it appears. Love simply is not something you can count on happening at any particular time. It will happen, when it happens, and how it happens, quite out of your control. It may happen only once in a lifetime or it may happen a dozen times. When it appears, don't let it pass you by.
Some of the reasons we give ourselves for allowing love to escape us when it shows up in our lives, have to do with our left brain, with our rational, logical self, that cautions us, that reminds us that perhaps this person is not quite what we had thought would be right for us, or that it makes little sense because of the difference in backgrounds, or because we both live in different countries, or because one of the two already has children from a previous marriage, and so on.
But love is so precious. You may believe you will easily fall in love with another person, and you might, but perhaps the other person will not fall in love with you. Or vice versa, someone else may love you, but you don’t feel love for that person. And in the meantime, you have allowed love to pass you by because your rational, objective, logical mind has led you to take that decision.
In my other blog (Rewiring the Soul) I’ve written about the second and third brain and on my website the May 2006 Newsletter also refers to it: Introducing Our Second and Third Brains: We Do Think With Our Heart and Instinct.
This second and third brain have to do with those billions of neural cells that scientists have now discovered to also be located in our heart and gut (feelings and instincts), and that have been shown to contribute to our intelligence-gathering process in at least as great a measure, as those neural cells located in our brain, if not more. So it stands to reason that in questions of love, we should also allow these parts of our being come into play when we take decisions.
Let me repeat: love is so precious. Don’t let it walk past you. When it appears in your life, grab on to it. Hold it. Treasure it. You don’t have any guarantees that it will last forever. That is the terrain of fairy tales and religious institutionalized words until death do you part. The reality is that it may be short-lived or last an entire lifetime. The only guarantee we have is that it is one of the most wonderful things that can happen to a human being. And it happens for many reasons.