Continuing with the theme of staying with anger, I thought we could look at relationship pain today. Imagine you and your partner broke up recently. You are dealing with it, and think you are on the road to recovery. You're driving in your car and the radio plays a song that makes you think of your partner. You wax nostalgic, and the nostalgia disintegrates into pain and sorrow, loss, deep, shattering loss.
Again, you've been reading the books, maybe even some portions of this blog, so you know what to do...you know you need to get yourself out of that place or you will fall into a deep black hole without a shadow of a doubt. And it may take you some time to find your way out of there. So you really know how important it is for you to leave this place in your mind, your thoughts, your feelings, your energy, in order to attain a higher energetic vibration. But you don't want to.
It feels good. What? Didn't we say it hurts like hell? Yes, but it still feels good.
This is really the crux of the matter. We all need to recognize these moments - at whatever time of pain in our lives, whether it is anger, loss, anguish - moments when we deliberately choose to remain in the "bad" place, rather than choosing to go elsewhere. Only by becoming conscious of the strong pull of pain, by becoming conscious of Eckhart Tolle's pain body or the emotional body as Chris Griscom calls it, can we begin the process of extricating ourselves from that pull and finding inner freedom precisely by making the choice.