WELCOME TO THIS BLOG


"All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." Chris Griscom, Spiritual Leader, Author

"Eloquent and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion." Robert Schwartz, Author: Your Soul's Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Want To Grow?


Our culture of 'instant' everything is teaching many - or causing many - to believe that the main purpose in their lives is to 'become' someone. We speak much of success, of reaching goals, of being well-known, famous, etc., but we seem to pay very little attention to growing.

How does a small seed become an oak tree? How does another kind of small seed become a tomato plant? How does a human embryo become a baby and then a child and then an adult? Obviously all grow. And what does the process of this kind of growth entail? Have you ever seen a child pulling at a budding plant to make it 'grow' faster and merely ripping it out of the ground? Or perhaps you've seen one of those YouTube videos showing how someone tries to help a butterfly emerge from the chrysalis and cause it to shrivel and die, as opposed to emerging in its own time in order to express it metamorphosized glory.

Perhaps if we paid a bit more attention to our own process of growth, as opposed to 'getting' somewhere, or 'becoming' someone, or 'achieving' something, we would - ironically - get there more quickly, or in much better shape. Our growth is as crucial to our development as sentient beings, as the time in the chrysalis is crucial to the emerging butterfly. Why not focus on that - on our growth - as opposed to focusing on the end result? Do you really think the caterpillar is focusing on becoming a butterfly? It's focusing on its process of growth and transformation, where transformation is the operative word. And do you really think that while the chrysalis is in formation it is focusing on becoming a butterfly? It's focusing on its process of growth and metamorphosis, where metamorphosis is the operative word. Let's learn from the caterpillar. Let's focus on growth, transformation and metamorphosis, at least as much as we focus on our end result. We might be amazed with the results.

It was Goethe who said: Everybody wants to be somebody; nobody wants to grow, and it was Bach who said: What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.


For more about focusing on growth, and of making conscious choices that will enhance your life and promote greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.





My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in print and Kindle formats.

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author 

“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.” 
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born 

"The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth." 
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body 



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, December 24, 2012

Choosing Joy


On this day that symbolizes peace and love for so many, I encourage you to always choose joy. Many of the Christmas messages I have received tell me of pain and strife in the lives of the writer, and while my heart goes out to them, and while humanly speaking I fully understand them, I also know that even in the midst of pain and strife, difficulty and frustration, joy is a choice.

How?

By deciding that inside yourself, in your connection to your eternal self, to that part of you that never dies, you will always choose joy. That part of you knows that this is all part of a classroom of sorts that you have chosen (although I know that many continue to find that hard to stomach), and that it is a question of assimilating the material being presented in the best way possible, in order to be able to move on to the next class.

Remember the old adage that there is a silver lining to every cloud. Remember also that in order to succeed, you may need to fall as many times as a child trips and falls when it is learning how to walk.

Choose joy. Choose love. Choose peace. It is truly up to you.


For much more about choosing joy and about how choosing to take it on as a personal responsibility affects our relationships, and how awareness about this can help us to move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is now available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth in your relationships, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Keeping Exhilaration Alive


Are you still exhilarated when you think of your partner? If you've been together for a while, chances are the answer to that question is not a resounding yes. Exhilaration implies not only excitement, but also joy, a sense of mystery and discovery, fascination, elation, and delight. Quite a mouthful, especially if you want to apply it to a partner who no longer really evokes those feelings in you (or perhaps never did).

There are many ways to keep some of those feelings alive. Many people suggest that a couple have a weekly 'date night', or that they plan the occasional weekend away from home, especially if they have children. But I believe that there are a number of other things that are essential to keeping the exhilaration alive:
  • each partner needs to be as conscious as possible
  • being conscious implies that each partner is developing an aware relationship with him or herself. That means that there is a deep connection to the self.
  • each partner needs to recognize his/her own responsibility for his/her own inner well-being (as opposed to expecting a feeling of well-being from the partner. That can also happen, but in the first instance it needs to come from oneself).
  • with all of the above in place, the partners will be able to connect to each other in ways that would not be possible if the above were not in place
  • this kind of connection allows exhilaration between the partners to continue to flow
None of the above is difficult, but it does require attention and intention. Also some practice and discipline. But the end result and the final gift to yourself and your partnership is so monumentally wonderful, that not to do it makes no sense.



For much more about how being conscious affects your relationships, as well as about how choosing responsibility for the self enhances them, and about how all of this can help you move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the days in between. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Living Without Bitterness and Resentment


I've often wondered if those people whose lives are filled with bitterness and resentment could just see for a moment in time what their lives would be like without the bitterness and the resentment (and the ensuing pain), whether they would then take the step towards making the choice of putting the bitterness and resentment behind them.

Because that is really what it's all about...making a different choice.

It's not so much about being compassionate towards the person (or insitution) who did whatever it was to them; it's also not so much about letting by-gones be by-gones. Much more than that it's about recognizing that you can continue to identify with whatever it was that threw your life out of balance at some point in the past (yesterday or a quarter of a century ago), and that caused much pain then, which is why the bitterness and resentment arose, or you can decide that you simply are no longer that person. That you choose to be a person without bitterness and resentment for you. For your own good. For your own inner freedom and growth. And particularly in order to make space inside of you. As you choose to turn your back on the bitterness and resentment, you no longer need to use up energy - psychic energy - (psychological energy) to keep up those feelings. So now your energy can be channeled towards totally different - life-giving - endeavours.




For much more about choosing happiness for the self and about how choosing to take it on as a personal responsibility affects our relationships, and how awareness about this can help us to move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is now available here)

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here

Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth in your relationships, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here
To see the Table of Contents click here
Also see my special Christmas Bonus offer with gifts for YOU here


From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Creating Healthier Boundaries



The subject of boundaries is so fraught with misunderstanding, that it seems appropriate to write yet another article about it. Poor boundaries, or entirely missing boundaries always speak of a lack of love for the self, and while this may appear logical to the discerning reader - if such an emotionally weighted topic can be described as logical - it is the difficulty in going about loving the self when there have not been healthy models to build on in childhood, that creates what often appears to be an insurmountable Himalayan summit.

When a client visits me and recounts what many may consider unspeakable acts committed by the spouse or partner, while it may be true that the partner leaves much to be desired, what is also true is that the client sitting in despair or self-loathing in my office, has not had the benefit of a childhood that taught him how to take good care of the self.

We learn how to love the self by imitation. We observe how we are regarded and cared for by others. We see the reflection of love for us in our parents' eyes. These factors alone - when they are done in a loving and healthy fashion - are enough to give us the strength, courage, and knowledge to love and care for the self.
When, however, they are missing, or done only sporadically or depending on some mood, or not done at all, the lesson we learn is very different indeed. Here are some scenarios that depict how we miss out on learning those very important early lessons:

Parents Who Have Not Learned To Love Themselves

Such a parent is incapable of teaching you the fundamental skill of how to love yourself. You're going to have to wing it - perhaps when you are still quite young, or as a teen, or perhaps not until late in life. But it's clear you will need to learn it on your own, without that vital parental support. Why did they not learn to love themselves? Easy: they - just like you - did not have the appropriate role model although you have a great advantage. You've been digging, searching, asking, and reading articles such as this one. So you have an inkling of what is wrong. They may have never managed to get to this point - and remember - it has nothing to do with their level of education. This is, in some ways, very visceral. And it ties in strongly with both of the next two points.

The first point - poor boundaries - will have reared its ugly head frequently throughout the lifetime, either because they themselves allowed others to trespass their boundaries, or because they did it to others. Oh, you had not realized that people with poor boundaries are often the greatest trespassers of others' boundaries? It's simply two sides of one coin.

And the second point - lack of self-reflection - is a sort of corollary of the first. A person who does not reflect on the self - and such reflection implies being aware - is a person who has little real understanding of the dynamics of his/her own poor boundaries and his/her own lack of self-love.

Back to the parents who did not learn to love themselves. Have compassion. If they are still alive, try to imagine what it must have been like for them. Forgive them. And if they are no longer here, forgive them as well. Forgiving and self-love are very inter-related.

But you do understand, don't you, that if the model you are copying has not learned how to walk, you may not learn how to do so until much later in life. And in this case, the issue is self-love. If you don't see it happening at home, the degree of difficulty for you to learn it augments considerably. You will need to become self-reflective and aware in order to get to the place where you will begin to consider and then understand that it is your own responsibility to start the process.

Parents With Poor Boundaries

Such a parent allows others (in particular your other parent, or their partner, should it not be your other parent, as well as their own parents, friends and offspring) to step on their boundaries, all the while describing themselves as peacemakers, or someone who likes to keep a harmonious home. Or they make take another tack and continually complain about how poorly they are treated, they may cry, shout, explode or become depressed because they consider themselves victims, but in the end, nothing changes, because they never learn about how to implement healthy boundaries. Never forget: someone with poor boundaries, who is being mistreated in some way by another, plays their own role in the drama and must learn to take responsibility for their own side of this tango. It is never enough - and in fact, of little use - to blame the partner, because for things to change, it is the person with poor boundaries who needs to change, whether the other changes or not. (Note: domestic violence and physical abuse fall outside the scope of this article).
However, such a parent may also be acting out the other side of the coin, where they are the ones who trespass boundaries.

Either way, a child who grows up in such a household, will not learn anything at all about healthy boundaries: quite the contrary - this child may learn a great deal about painful twinges in the region of the solar plexus each time its own boundaries are trespassed.

Parents Who Lack Skills of Self-Reflection

Such a parent is simply not aware.  Think of it. If you are not aware you do not reflect about the self. If you do not reflect about the self, you are not aware. The habit of self-reflection tends to appear when a certain level of awareness of the self arises over and above the mere fact of how others impact on one's life. 

Introspection evidently forms an essential part of self-reflection, as does some kind of ability to separate the ego from the self.

A parent who is mainly reacting to outer stimuli in the form of events, people, conversations, and activities, is not self-reflective. A child who sees this pattern of reactivity does not learn the art of self-reflection from a role model, as would be the ideal thing to occur, but rather, if such a child learns it at all, it is because the child begins to question such reactivity on the part of the parent, perhaps first in the guise of thoughts such as: I never want to be like that.

Some areas that need to be touched on in self-reflection are:

·         the intention and desire to be aware enough to be able to be reflective
·         noticing how you are perceiving whatever it is that is happening
·         noticing how you are reacting to whatever is happening
·         noticing how you are interpreting whatever is happening
·         noticing the inner dialogue that occurs alongside all of the above
·         remembering that there is choice involved throughout this entire process
·         being willing to make good choices

**********************************

For the creation of good boundaries we might say that many things have to fall into place and there are numerous articles both on my website and blogs about the subject. However, the most important one is to be aware that your poor boundaries are not caused merely by an inconsiderate or abusive partner, but also by a lack of decision on your part to begin to make some changes. Poor boundaries are the foundation to a lack of healthy self-love and by beginning to shore up that poorly-built foundation (created generally, as said above, by a combination of poor role models in the early phases of life, and partners subconsciously chosen to exacerbate an already difficult inner issue), self -love will surely arise similar to the mythical phoenix that arises from the ashes, and all it requires is the first step of inner awareness to begin to take you there.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the days in between. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.


For much more about boundaries and how unhealthy boundaries affect your relationships adversely, as well as about how healthy ones enhance them, and about how this awareness can help you move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Choosing Happiness


Happiness, a topic I've blogged about over and over again here in these posts on my other blog is, nevertheless, a topic that continues to remain elusive for so many. Here are thoughts about it from some of the world's greatest thinkers. Isn't it interesting that they insist on either letting go or loving others?
  • Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness. The Buddha  
  • Do you know what it means to depend on somebody for your happiness? It is not the mere physical dependence on another which is so binding, but the inward, psychological dependence from which you derive so-called happiness; for when you depend on somebody in that way, you become a slave. Krishnamurti
  • The secret to my happiness is that I don't mind what happens. Krishnamurti
  • If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
    the Dalai Lama
And this last one: The purpose of our lives is to be happy by the Dalai Lama, brings home yet again the message that so many of us have not yet assimilated. If you really were to believe this - that the purpose of your life is to be happy - what would you choose to do differently?


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.



For much more about happiness and how choosing happiness for the self and choosing to take it on as a personal responsibility affects our relationships, and how awareness about this can help us to move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is now available here)

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth in your relationships, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre



Sunday, December 9, 2012

Walk Away From Anger & Choose to Forgive



This topic is so multi-faceted, that entire books could be - and have been - written about it. Today I merely want to touch on a tiny aspect of it. But a hugely important one.

When you experience great anger around a relatively small incident ... say, for example, that you return to your parked car and find that the driver's side is blocked by a motorcycle, parked in such a way that you can scarcely open your door, let alone get in, meaning you now have to climb in from the passenger side and maneuver over the gear shift, and you notice that the anger that surges in you makes you want - even if only in your mind - to do physical harm to the inconsiderate being who did this to you.

While we can all understand anger, it is important to recognize that such strong anger over an incident that is  - in the grand scheme of things - something relatively minor, is anger that does not in fact come specifically due to the incident, but has its roots in something different. It might be childhood hurts or being abandoned (physically, emotionally, psychologically), it might be feeling misunderstood in other earlier moments of life that were never addressed, and so now, whenever something happens that causes you to feel mistreated, ignored, or "dumped" in some fashion, anger arises that is generally far greater than the situation merits.

Understand that this is a message from you to you. A clue that something is amiss. A signal that you might wish to examine what is going on under the magnifying glass of your past.

And once you have done that - even if just in cursory fashion - you are ready to take the next step in order to resolve, or begin to resolve this thing in you that creates such anger: you are ready to consider that you might wish to forgive ... that you might wish to choose to forgive. Not for the other person's sake, not for anything or anyone else but yourself. In order to be able to lay this to rest. In order to be free of it. In order to be able to live in peace. And as you do it, as you begin to forgive, you begin to show yourself that you love yourself.


Note: If you are wondering why this blog only appears on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I post on my other blog on the days in between. That other blog is Rewiring the Soul, so named for my earlier book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.


For much more about forgiving and how it enhances your relationships, and about how this awareness can help you move towards spiritual partnership and inner peace, see my new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership which is now available in paperback format. (The Kindle version is available here)

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.

This ground-breaking book addresses:

• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship

It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships. 


Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership 

“All humans seek the illusive touch of another's Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true "tao" of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come." 
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author (among others) of Time is an Illusion and Ecstasy is a New Frequency



REWIRING THE SOUL


For more about understanding the self and inner growth, also have a look at my earlier book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

THE GIFT THAT CAN CHANGE A LIFE



THE GIFT THAT CAN CHANGE A LIFE


Christmas is fast approaching

Why not give a gift that has the capacity to change a life?
And receive your choice of bonuses for yourself.

MY BOOKS:

                  Rewiring the Soul                The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
                       
                                
offer such a possibility

I wrote both these books with the person who yearns for inner harmony & peace in mind. I
wrote them precisely for those who suffer in their personal lives or whose relationships simply
are no longer working. I wrote them for you and for those you love.

If you want a gift that keeps on giving not just at Christmas; not just while it's being read, but
for a lifetime because of the changes it can help bring about in the reader's life, consider giving
one of my books or both.

Order both books or more than one copy of either one of them & attend
one or BOTH of my live 1-hour teleseminars or receive one or BOTH
       of my 4-hour audio workshops as a GIFT for yourself - see below.



Books by Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D. 

Available on most Amazon global sites
in paperback and Kindle e-book versions


                 Rewiring the Soul                                            The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
(2011)                                                                                 (2012)

                              
                             
       To Download the First Chapter click Here                   To Download the First Chapter click Here
       To See the Table of Contents click here                    To See the Table of Contents click here



BONUS OPTIONS: 

Option #1

Get one copy of each of my books or two copies of either one of the books for a total purchase of two books (print or Kindle) and receive a bonus gift of one of my teleseminars (your choice, a value of US $ 15.00):
  • Thoughts: Do They Control You? Can You Control Them?
                     Wed., Jan. 16, 2013, 1 pm EST / 10 am PST / 6 pm GMT / 7 pm CET 
                     (to see your time zone, click here

              -  Is your life ruled by your thoughts?
              -  Are YOU ruled by your thoughts?
              -  Or do you know how to manage all those unbidden thoughts of stress, worry, anger, and frustration               that continually appear in your mind and create so much pain in your life?
              -  In this teleseminar you will discover 2 simple techniques that will allow you to reach a place of inner peace and freedom from these thoughts in order that you will be the one who decides which thoughts get through and which will simply no longer be permitted to have a place in your life. All techniques will be discussed during the seminar. There is nothing to be purchased. 
  • Who is to Blame for the Problems in Your Life?
                      Thurs., Jan. 17, 2013, 4 pm EST / 1 pm PST / 9 pm GMT / 10 pm CET
                      (to see your time zone, click here)

                -  Most of us have people in our lives (spouses, children, parents, friends, colleagues, bosses, etc.) who add to our frustration and pain. We blame them for our unhappiness or other negative emotions. We tell ourselves that if only they were like this or like that, our own life would be so much easier and better.
                -  We also have situations in our lives (unsatisfying jobs, bad weather, canceled plans, too much weight, lack of money) that we blame for our unhappiness or other negative emotions. We tell ourselves that if only we could change those situations our own life would be so much easier and better.
                -  In this teleseminar you will discover how such thinking - such blaming - is a form of self-sabotage, and you will also discover techniques that will help you turn it around in order to come to a place of inner peace and freedom where such blaming is no longer necessary. All techniques will be discussed during the seminar. There is nothing to be purchased.

Can't attend either of these teleseminars due to time considerations?
It's not a problem, as you will receive an email with a link after the actual seminar
of your choice has taken place in order to listen to (and/or download) the audio recording.


Option #2

Get three copies of either of my books, or a combination of both books (print or Kindle) and receive a bonus gift of one of my 4-hour audio workshops (your choice, a value of US $ 34.95 - download only):
  • Fatherless Women and Motherless Men: The Influence of Absent Parents on Adult Relationships
Sometimes a father's physical presence may form part of the household, yet he may not be available for his daughter in the way that she hopes for as she searches his face in vain for a clue to her own identity; sometimes a mother does her utmost to raise her son with love and attention, yet he feels as though he never received the love he so desperately sought from her as a child; as though he had been shortchanged in the affection department. Sometimes the parent is not actually present, due to divorce, abandonment, illness, or death; sometimes the parent is negligent, uncaring, or even abusive: in all these instances, the child suffers, and pays for it in his or her adult relationships. This workshop explores these issues, their recognition, and possible resolution.
  • Relationships: Priceless Tools for Self-Understanding, Growth, and Inner Freedom
Ever wondered why we frequently choose partners that initially attract us enormously, only to cause so many problems later? Or why we leave one relationship only to realize we're faced with another version of the same person all over again in the next one? What does it mean when we cry out in pain: "How could you have let me believe you were like this, when really you are like that!" These and other, related topics are explored in this workshop that aims at bringing about a deeper understanding of the real meaning and purpose of relationships, and how they may form part of an individual's psychological, emotional, and spiritual evolution and well-being.


Option #3

Get five copies of my books - any combination of either of the two books or five copies of only one of the books (print or Kindle), and receive a bonus gift of both of my 4-hour audio workshops (a value of US $ 69.90 - download only).


Option #4

Get six copies of my books - any combination of either of the two books or six copies of only one of the books (print or Kindle), and receive a bonus gift of both of my audio workshops (a value of US $ 69.90 - download only), as well as both of the teleseminars (a value of US $ 30.00) for a total BONUS gift value of US $99.90.


INSTRUCTIONS for all Options:
  1. Please make your purchase on any of the global Amazon sites
  2. You will need to acquire each copy of each book/s as a separate purchase in your Amazon account in order to have a separate Amazon Order Number for each book you purchase since this is the only way we have of verifying the number of copies you have purchased.
  3. When you have those order numbers (in the email/s that Amazon sends you once the purchase has been finalized), click as follows to go to the bonus download page: 
  • Option 1: you purchased 2 copies of my books: CLICK HERE to choose the teleseminar you have decided upon and receive your webcast and call-in information
  • Option 2: you purchased 3 copies of my books: CLICK HERE to chose the workshop you have decided upon and receive the download link 
  • Option 3: you purchased 5 copies of my books: CLICK HERE to fill in the form and receive the download links for both workshops
  • Option 4: you purchased 6 copies of my books: CLICK HERE to fill in the form and receive the download links for both workshops and to receive your webcast and call-in information for both teleseminars

Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed and very loving Christmas Season


   Gabriella Kortsch


***********************************
Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D., CHT
+ 34 952 929 071 --  Marbella, SPAIN
Psychotherapist: English   /   Español   /   Deutsch